Understanding the Concept of Confidence

This narrative is dedicated to Elaineh, my favorite author on Medium, who inspired me to pen a book on this topic. I plan to self-publish it and offer it in my shop, hoping it will generate significant revenue, which I will donate to worthy charities.

Now, let's delve into the essence of this discussion.

Back in the day, there was a self-help book titled "Why Men Adore Confident Women." While the original wording was more provocative, I prefer to keep things respectful here.

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I believe swearing doesn’t belong on Medium, even though I might indulge elsewhere. After all, is there anything more exhilarating than expressing oneself freely?

Now, back to the main point.

The core idea of that book was that men are drawn to women who exude confidence rather than those who allow themselves to be walked all over. The takeaway? Be confident rather than submissive, and you’ll attract affection.

I recall reading this in my twenties, and my immediate reaction was confusion.

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The suggestion that I needed to act like a domineering person to win men's hearts felt odd. I tried embodying this attitude for a single day, and it was a dismal experience.

What I discovered is that men aren’t particularly fond of domineering women. Instead, they appreciate confident, genuine individuals. Interestingly, I’ve found that men often behave like gentlemen around ladies, which is a refreshing dynamic.

So, here are three pieces of advice on how to avoid the bootch persona and cultivate confidence instead.

Disclaimer: These insights are solely based on my personal experiences and do not represent all women.