Finding Serenity: A Guide to Overcoming Overthinking
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Chapter 1: Understanding Overthinking
In my experiences of grappling with overthinking, I’ve realized that it brings no benefits. Instead, it only adds to my stress and headaches. When this cycle begins, it often feels inescapable.
A common strategy for addressing overthinking involves replacing negative thoughts with positive ones, as negative thinking typically fuels overthinking. However, this approach has rarely worked for me in the long run. What tends to happen is that I simply bury the negative thoughts, leaving them unresolved and ready to resurface later.
Attempting to force my mind into a calm and positive state often exacerbates the issue. The more I try to control my racing thoughts, the worse it becomes.
Let It Be
I’ve discovered that the most effective way to soothe my mind is to simply let it be. If I envision my overthinking as a speeding vehicle with me being dragged behind it, the quickest route to tranquility is to release the rope instead of trying to seize control of the car. By letting go, the chaotic thoughts dissipate.
Allowing my mind to rest means refraining from meddling or attempting to fix it. It involves stopping the effort to steer it toward “better” thoughts. The mind has a natural tendency to restore balance if we give it the space to do so. The key is to refrain from judging the mind’s chaos and to accept it as it is. Observing it with compassion allows it to settle naturally.
“Of course, you can’t force your mind to be silent. That will be like trying to smooth ripples in water over a flat surface. Water becomes clear and calm only when left alone.” — Alan Watts
Become the Silent Observer
Achieving mental calmness through this method necessitates mindfulness. Practicing mindfulness equips you with the awareness to step outside your thoughts and gain a better understanding without being overwhelmed.
To quiet my overthinking, I start with a few deep breaths until my focus is entirely on my breath. Once I’ve centered my attention, I direct that awareness toward my thoughts, simply observing without interference. From this vantage point, I can recognize how agitated my mind is, leading to the overthinking.
More often than not, I find that the root cause is a negative remark I directed at myself, which spiraled out of control. The most beneficial action here is to acknowledge the pain and agitation gently and compassionately. This mindful attention allows the mind to settle quickly.
Whenever I sense my thoughts spiraling, I take a step back, enhance my awareness, and focus it on my mind until it calms naturally. This practice often brings relief within minutes, and I believe it can work for you as well.
Avoiding the Justification Trap
A frequent pitfall I’ve encountered is justifying my overthinking. I convince myself that I’m merely fine-tuning my thoughts, ensuring I’ve considered every possible detail and outcome before proceeding, all in the name of caution.
However, this only enables my mind to keep dragging me around, causing unnecessary distress. When I step back and allow my mind to rest, I notice my body relaxes as well. I feel a sense of balance return, stress diminishes, and inner peace becomes attainable once more.
By becoming the silent observer of your own thoughts, you cultivate a sense of control and tranquility.
The first video titled "6 Therapy Skills to Stop Overthinking Everything" offers practical techniques for managing overthinking. It delves into various strategies that can help you regain control over your thoughts and find a sense of calm.
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