# The Hypocrisy I Discovered About Myself
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Chapter 1: The Frustration of Unspoken Praise
Let me share a realization that has been bothering me for quite some time. For the past five years, I've felt frustrated by acquaintances who only express admiration for my content when we meet in person.
In the digital age, it astonishes me that they rarely engage with my posts online—no likes, no comments, not even a direct message. Instead, they wait until we are face-to-face, which may mean I have to wait years to hear compliments that could have taken mere seconds to convey.
As someone who creates uplifting content, I genuinely appreciate hearing how my work impacts others. Ideally, I'd like to receive that feedback more frequently, but the reality is that it rarely happens.
Despite my desire for recognition, I know I shouldn't let it bother me. In a perfect world, I'd possess the equanimity of a sage, having transcended the need for external validation. But here I am, not quite enlightened and still yearning for acknowledgment.
Section 1.1: The Irony of Waiting for Validation
It's been a persistent annoyance that people hold back their praise until we meet in person. For example, someone may have watched a video I posted years ago, appreciating it immensely, yet they choose to share their thoughts only after a long hiatus.
I often ponder why they don’t send me a simple message or, at the very least, engage with my content online. A little interaction could significantly improve my visibility and reach.
This frustration has lingered for years. However, a recent encounter made me rethink my stance.
Subsection 1.1.1: A Surprising Encounter
Section 1.2: A Moment of Realization
At a recent funeral, I unexpectedly ran into Jade, an old acquaintance from a decade ago. She had undergone a remarkable transformation, losing weight and improving her fitness—a journey I had silently followed over the years.
When we caught up, she expressed her admiration for my online presence, despite never engaging with my posts. For a brief moment, I felt a surge of self-righteousness until I caught myself doing exactly what I had criticized others for.
I found myself telling Jade how much I admired her weight loss journey and how proud I was of her progress. In that moment, the irony struck me: I had spent years observing her transformation without ever offering her words of encouragement.
Chapter 2: Recognizing My Own Hypocrisy
I had cheered her on in my mind but had never reached out to show my support. The realization hit hard—I was being the very hypocrite I had spent years resenting in others.
When I shared this epiphany with Jade, we both laughed about it. While there were no hard feelings, it still made me reflect on what other blind spots I might have.
That's it for today, folks 💪🏾😎
Excelsior!
Ciaran
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