Chapter 1: Understanding FOMO and JOMO

You might have encountered the term "FOMO," which stands for "fear of missing out." It's that sinking feeling we get when we see others enjoying events we're not part of—whether it's a bachelorette trip you can't join, seeing friends out while you stay in, or missing a concert you'd love to attend. Social media amplifies this sentiment, making us feel as though we should always be engaged in activities, and if we're not, we're somehow falling behind.

As I've matured, I've embraced "JOMO," or the "joy of missing out." After a week filled with endless commitments, I often find myself drained. When my schedule is packed with birthdays, weddings, or other events, I can feel overwhelmed. I've learned that sometimes, the key to a more joyful life is to prioritize saying "No" instead of "Yes." Instead of fixating on our FOMO, it’s essential to shift our focus and relish in our JOMO.

I enjoy being there for others, and certain occasions are indeed worth attending, as building relationships is vital. However, do you really need to attend every single wedding a friend hosts? No. If you’ve just visited family, is it necessary to make another trip the following month for a birthday celebration? Probably not. It's perfectly acceptable to RSVP “No” to events, and surprisingly, you don’t always owe anyone an explanation. You shouldn't feel pressured to attend every invitation that comes your way.

The older I get, the more I treasure my free time, much like a dragon guarding its gold. Life moves quickly, and I now find joy in quiet evenings at home or leisurely mornings. Often, I feel like I’m trying to catch up, so having an evening where I can do whatever I want feels like a luxury. Whether it’s watching a movie, going for a walk, writing, or simply enjoying a glass of wine, the options are endless! I no longer feel guilty about taking a break when I need it. If someone asks about my plans and I say, "No plans," I often get a barrage of suggestions. But sometimes, I'm perfectly satisfied with not having plans at all.

Recently, I was invited out for drinks, but I chose to stay in. After a busy stretch of having guests, I felt the need for a night to unwind. I changed into comfortable clothes, and my partner and I, along with our cats, enjoyed a movie together—without a single regret. Did I miss a night of excitement? Perhaps. Will there be more fun nights in the future? Absolutely. Did I want to put on real pants and leave my home? Not at all. I experienced a significant amount of JOMO without a hint of FOMO. Finding comfort in relaxation is a true blessing.

I encourage you to embrace JOMO as well. It's liberating to slow down and savor the present rather than chasing after the next big event. Focus on doing less and loving it. If feelings of FOMO still arise, just remember the discomfort of high heels and the constant ping of group texts, and you might find yourself breathing a sigh of relief. Ultimately, as we cultivate joy, we naturally lessen our fears and anxieties.

Chapter 2: Videos on JOMO

Watch this insightful video on embracing JOMO and the joys that come with it. Discover how to shift your mindset from FOMO to JOMO and find contentment in your choices.

Tune into this discussion on moving beyond FOMO and embracing the beauty of JOMO. Learn how to prioritize your happiness and well-being over societal expectations.