What My 88-Year-Old Mother Taught Me About Aging and Strength
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Chapter 1: A Lesson from My Mother
Recently, my mother celebrated her 88th birthday while recovering in the hospital. Following surgery, she spent six days in bed, connected to an IV as she transitioned from a liquid diet to semi-solid foods. This morning, she managed to eat a slice of toast, a feat that I would find particularly draining at my younger age of 62. Despite her exhaustion, she demonstrated remarkable determination; just one day after her return home, she was able to get in and out of bed independently.
While we discussed her good fortune, she shared that she has experienced four falls in recent years. For many seniors, a fall can lead to severe injuries, such as hip fractures. As noted by retired physician Stephen Schimpff, falls are a significant cause of injuries among those over 65, leading to thousands of deaths and emergency room visits each year. Yet, my mother continues to rise each time she falls, exhibiting a resilience that is both inspiring and educational for all of us.
Importantly, my mother is not a fitness enthusiast; she does not frequent the gym, jog, or practice yoga. However, she maintains a reasonable level of activity for her age and appreciates the strength she possesses.
Section 1.1: A Contrasting Story
A few months ago, I met another woman who faced a different challenge. While browsing a garage sale near my home, she tripped and fell. Although she was not injured, she struggled to get back on her feet. It took considerable effort for us to help her up. This woman, who I estimate to be in her late 50s, lacked the strength in her arms and legs to rise after a fall.
I share this anecdote not to criticize her but to highlight the stark differences between our experiences. As we age, maintaining physical fitness becomes increasingly important, yet many neglect this vital aspect of health.
Section 1.2: The Importance of Staying Active
In previous generations, physical labor was essential for survival. My grandmother and great-grandmother cultivated their own gardens and maintained active lifestyles into their 90s. In contrast, contemporary society often exhibits a concerning trend of inactivity and unhealthy eating habits. Obesity rates have surged, highlighting the need for increased awareness regarding the importance of physical capability in older age.
Many accept the notion that frailty is a natural outcome of aging, which is a fundamentally flawed perspective. While it is true that we may not retain the same strength we had in our youth, many underestimate their ability to remain fit and active as they age.
Recent studies indicate that physical activity is one of the most effective treatments for chronic conditions, such as arthritis and back pain. Dr. Sarah B. Lieber emphasizes that exercise is crucial for older adults, yet many do not meet recommended activity levels due to negative perceptions about aging.
Chapter 2: The Path to Resilience
The video titled "My Best Life Advice For You | What 83 Years Of Living Has Taught Me | Life Over 60" offers valuable insights into the importance of maintaining an active lifestyle.
It is never too late to start or resume an exercise routine. For those capable of moving, dedicating just 20 to 30 minutes, two to three times a week, can significantly improve strength and balance. The mental and physical health benefits are extensive.
Despite her reluctance to use the dumbbells I know she has tucked away, my mother remains active. At 88, she has demonstrated the strength necessary to recover from surgery swiftly. If the other woman were faced with similar circumstances, I worry she would struggle significantly.
While my mother may never embrace a rigorous exercise regimen, I will continue to encourage her to stay active, perhaps by lifting soup cans or doing simple chair squats. As I reflect on her journey, I am reminded of the importance of maintaining strength and fitness as we age.
Her ability to sleep well also contributes to her overall well-being, a quality that I highlighted in my book, "Make Sleep Your Superpower." Contrary to common myths, many seniors, including my mother, enjoy restful sleep, further aiding their health as they approach their 89th year.
